“A warm, engaging, deceptively simple tribute to innate wisdom. May we all learn from such loveable teachers.”
— Dennis Palumbo – screenwriter My Favorite Year, author the Daniel Rinaldi mysteries
“A beautiful, heartfelt, and entertaining book, that gives the reader a deep understanding of the profound relationship between the human psyche and the souls of the other animals with whom we share this planet.”
— Linda Buzzell, co-editor Ecotherapy – Healing with Nature in Mind
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- Tracy asks: I’ve come to realize that I’m an abusive partner in my relationship; it’s been going on for a while now and I really need help. What can I do?Hi Tracy – Wow. Well here’s the good news: you’ve already done 90% of the work. With an issue like this, by far the biggest part of the job is realizing and admitting the problem. What comes now isn’t easy, but it’s easier than what you’ve done. ... read more
- Anu asks: If guys are so shy that they might shiver in front of you while having an in-person conversation, and they are really bad at texting, how can a girl even try for him? The girl has already made the first move. He shows signs of liking her, but the problem is that he is a hardcore book nerd. What to do next?Hi Anu – I have a few pieces on my website about how to approach shy guys, but as you say, you’ve already done that. And it’s worked. So what next? Well, I have a few thoughts, but I can’t guarantee any of them; they’re just ideas. ... read more
- bssk2412 asks: I’ve been married for 34 years, living with our family. About four years ago l met a divorced mother, and we got emotionally attached. I got involved in this because l wasn’t having the emotional connection with my wife. Everything was good between this lady and me, we really got close to each other emotionally and physically. But over the last few months suddenly she started behaving guiltily. I’m really attached to her and love her. But suddenly she’s making me realize, after four years of a steady relationship that I’m cheating on my wife. I’m so disturbed and confused. Please advise me on this, what should l do.Hi bssk2412 – If you’ve looked around my website, you know that I live with a human named Handsome, and we adore each other more than anything. I would never do anything to hurt him or myself. But if I see a cat or squirrel across the street, and I’m ... read more
- Spiky 401 asks: I like this dude. He is actually a Libra, as am I. I researched everything I can about my zodiac sign and it fit his description exactly. He convinced me into telling him I like him, and his reply was “aww I like you too,” but from there everything went back to normal conversation. I couldn’t understand what it or he means. He is very flirty, but one thing’s for sure – when he sticks to one person he is very devoted. I like him, I really do. How do I go about attracting this Libra dude without he really knowing I’m putting an effort to, and without talking to him – a way that will make him come to me instead of me going to him?Hi Spiky 401 – I have to confess, I don’t know a lot about Astrology. We dogs are so affected by the skies, the stars, the earth, and the moon, that it’s hard to keep the effects of a single thing like a constellation straight. But I checked up on Libras, and I ... read more
- Lila asks: I’ve been in a really screwed up relationship, and now I have an awesome understanding supportive boyfriend. How can I tell him I can’t trust his female co-worker around him? She just tried opening the bathroom door while she thought he was in there! How can I bring this up to him without getting mad or him thinking I’m crazy?Hi Lila – Well I think you answered your own question. If he’s awesome, and understanding, and supportive, then he ought to not get too mad when he finds out you have concerns about his co-worker. Even if he doesn’t agree with your worries, he shouldn’t be angry about ... read more
- My pack asks: A year ago I introduced a girl as my said sister (a term like “best friend”) to my parents as well as hers. This means we told our parents we’d never become romantic with each other, so they’d let us hang out. But for the last eight months our relationship has deepened, and we love each other a lot. We didn’t know we’d fall in love. We can’t live without each other. Now we have to convince our parents to accept this relationship, as we want to marry. And even beyond our parents, other people might say bad things about her family, that this girl said this guy is like her brother, and now she wants to marry him.Hi My pack – I have to confess, this might be a case where, even as a dog, I don’t have enough cultural understanding. Where I live, in the United States, the most acceptable and “clean” way for a couple to get together is to be friends first. ... read more
- Aishwarya asks: My boyfriend left me few weeks back. And now he texted me that his dad is not well and uncle is on deathbed. Should I show him some sympathy?Hi Aishwarya – This is a fascinating question, so great I have three different answers for it, depending on different situations. I wish I knew enough to give you just one, because they’re all pretty different. But hopefully this will help. Okay, first situation: You’re close with his ... read more
- Shirley_av asks: My boyfriend’s family came to know everything about our relationship and gave him a choice to choose between family and love, and so he chose his family over love, and her mother made him promise not to talk to me. But I want to save my relationship. What can I do?Hi Shirley_av – I wish I had a great, clever answer for you, but we pups are just not that smart. I can certainly relate to the feeling you’re having – it feels like every time I’m locked in a cage. Whether at the pound, or at a veterinarian’s hospital, or a ... read more
- PERFECTION asks: I want to tell someone how I really feel, and I just want to make it honest and sincere but the only thing that I’m worried about is that I don’t know how to do it, any tips?Hi PERFECTION – I’m never one to call my Pack members liars, but I’m going to break that rule and call you out, my friend: HOOEY! PURE HOOEY! PURE LITTERBOX MATERIAL!!! Not that you don’t like that person, or have strong feelings for them; I’m sure that’s true. ... read more
- roshini asks: My boyfriend is a male chauvinist; he never understands my feelings and perspectives. I don’t like breaking relationships and so I thought to adjust with him, but later on I couldn’t, and we had lots of fights. He has trust issues with me. He is afraid to marry me since we are from different religions. Now I need to decide what to do – to be in this kind of relationship or to leave him!Hi roshini – Have you ever heard of John Gray? He wrote a famous book called Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, and a number of sequels to it. At one point, he wrote about the question of whether couples should share interests, or have an “opposites ... read more
- Tshilidzi asks: I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for 8 months now. 2 months into our relationship he was way too busy for me and even canceled our dates. I knew he was a busy man before dating him, but I thought he’d compromise for me. I was so lonely and sad cause he reminded of my failed relationships and felt as if I didn’t deserve to be happy. I am a student, and where I school there is a lecturer, and for 3 years now we have been pretending to be a fake couple. All of a sudden it became real for both of us – and he is married. He is funny and gives me so much attention and is always around me. He made me forget about all my troubles. I dumped my boyfriend and he was there for me. Ended up taking him back after countless apologies and things have been perfect ever since. Problem is that now I’ve got deep feelings for my instructor and he even kissed me. I try to forget about him but I can’t and I know it’s wrong. I would tell myself that I’m not gonna entertain him anymore but the moment I see him I go crazy. The connection I have with him is something I have never felt before and he is also battling with me . He can’t stay away from me. And he is in a risk of getting fired and me being punished and my boyfriend is also doing the same course as me and I’m afraid he will find out. I don’t know what to do cause I’ve never been in this situation and I don’t know how to handle it. Please help me. I don’t want to be a reason why another woman is sad but I just can’t help myself, I am so deep in love with him. I can’t even stay away from him; also we are always looking for each other around the whole school and we talk every day. Some students have even noticed our change of hearts. He has been married for 2 years and has no kids with the woman, but has 2 from his previous marriage. He is older than me by 25 but looks very young. Please help meHi Tshilidzi – Wow, Tshilidzi, there is so much going on here, it’s hard to know where to start! But really, everything you wrote comes down to two things. First, there’s a guy you’ve been dating who is so busy he makes you feel unimportant. And second, you’re ... read more
- PERFECTION asks: Shirelle, is death the answer to all problems and sadness in life? I’ve always wanted to shut myself off to the world. I’m in pain for far too long and I think that’ll be the only way to maybe at least get over the pain.Hi PERFECTION: Quick answer to your question: No. Absolutely not, no way, impossible, forget it. Now, now that I’ve said that, let me make one exception. If you had a terminal disease, and were in constant awful pain, and only had a short time to live, it’s ... read more
- Tasmyne asks: I just recently got married to someone I’ve been dating for 10 years. We were living together. I also just had a baby who is 4 months old. My husband has this thing that every weekend he is out with his buddies. I am still on maternity leave and am home all day. I have a nanny who also helps me. I hardly see my husband during the week, and when I do he is constantly tired (as he owns his own business) or he is on the phone conducting business. If he is not doing that, then he is at the gym and when he is done gyming he tends to go chill with his friends. My problem is that he sees his buddies every day during the week, and then on the weekend he is with them. He doesn’t seem to realize that he never spends time with his family. So I thought I would suggest a date night. Since my daughter is a little older now. I suggested we have date night once every 4 months at least just so we can have some time together. The response I got from him was “Who are we going to leave the kids with (we also have a 7 yr old son),” because he can’t leave the kids with his mom all the time. My issue is that it will be once every 4 months and I was also going to ask my mom. Or if I really needed a baby sitter I would pay my nanny overtime to stay the night as she only works days. As I write to you now it’s 2 am and he is still out with his friends. Tomorrow morning he will be too tired to eat breakfast with us. He will probably wake up after lunch and be gone again. I have no idea what to do. I feel so alone and fat and unattractive because all I see is a husband who doesn’t want to spend time with me or his kids. A few weeks ago he stayed out all night. I woke up at 7 am and he still was not home. After telling me he will be home at 2 pm. I tried calling him but his phone was off. I tracked his car to a hotel parking lot. I could not leave my kids to go searching for him as it was my nanny’s day off. I asked his brother to go check it out for me. This was the day he was supposed to take the kids on a safari. He apparently got so drunk he passed out and one of his friends who is the boss of the security guards at this hotel drive his car there so it would be safe. And his other friend was supposed to drive him home, but instead his friend drove him to his place where he passed out on the couch. He only contacted me at 10 am that day. I was so angry I took myself and my kids to my mom’s place. I still can’t get past that day as I seriously think he cheated on me, as the whole story doesn’t add up. I don’t know what to do.Hi Tasmyne – I get a lot of letters, as you know, and very often they have mistakes in them. Misspellings, typos, or even flat-out wrong words. That’s fine; I just clean them up to make them more readable before I post them. So when you said that ... read more
- PERFECTION asks: What does it mean to “never beg to be loved”?Hi PERFECTION – My friend, your asking me this question is like asking me what it means to fly, or to walk on two legs. It’s something I know exists, but it sure doesn’t apply to me! The best illustration I can give of this concept is cats, ... read more
- Kavita asks: I got married one and half years back. My husband is very good person by heart, but when he gets angry he’ll act like a demon. Once, for no good reason, we fought, and he beat me up and left home and blocked me from everywhere. Then one day out of frustration I cheated on him (meaning I kissed a guy and he also kissed me) and now my husband found out about this and is asking for a divorce. I don’t know what I should do?Hi Kavita – I don’t know enough about the earlier part of your marriage to say anything super-intelligent, but it sure sounds to me like this relationship has run its course. First, I am not a fan of men who beat women up. I love a good fun ... read more