“A warm, engaging, deceptively simple tribute to innate wisdom. May we all learn from such loveable teachers.”
— Dennis Palumbo – screenwriter My Favorite Year, author the Daniel Rinaldi mysteries
“A beautiful, heartfelt, and entertaining book, that gives the reader a deep understanding of the profound relationship between the human psyche and the souls of the other animals with whom we share this planet.”
— Linda Buzzell, co-editor Ecotherapy – Healing with Nature in Mind
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- Bart asks: I have done things a long time ago, but I have changed! Years later people bring up these things and it makes me very angry. Here I am interviewing for an important job and people keep throwing my mistakes at me. Why do they do this, and how should I respond!Hi Bart – I certainly understand your frustration. People are always mistrusting me because of something I did months ago, or maybe last night. But hey, in dog days that’s a week, right? But it’s even worse for them to mistrust me because of something I did, or something ... read more
- Akol asks: I have been with a married man who failed to have kids with his first wife. I then gave him three kids. But I want to get married and he does not stay with me, he stays with his wife. Now I am pregnant. I don’t know whether he is my man or not. I truly want to get married. The lady knows that I exist. But the bitter truth is though he says he does love me, I struggle alone. He does not support the children and me in the way he is supposed to, or fulfil his promises. I had forgotten him for a full year and moved on, till he came back again and promised to change and pay fees for the children, which he gave a half – till now. I think I need to be bold and stand on my word. Telling him that I need also to get married, and not to be a concubine.Hi Akol – In the book that Handsome wrote about me, he tells about a relationship he was in, where he was the “other man,” and how it put him through absolute torment. As much as a human might like to believe they’re independent and don’t need validation ... read more
- PERFECTION asks: How do you keep the faith, knowing that there’s nothing for you to hold on?Hi PERFECTION – Well… to your question about keeping the faith when there’s nothing to hold on to… that’s the only faith that matters. Whether it’s faith in a religion or faith in the goodness of people or faith in the future, it’s only faith if you still ... read more
- Danish asks: The grandmother of this girl I really like is in very critical condition in a hospital, so we can’t talk properly. I feel very bad for her and want to give her my emotional support. Can u please tell me what can I talk with her about, in this time when her family is in trouble?Hi Danish – I’m awfully sorry about her grandmother. I hope she’s not suffering. This is a very tough situation – for her of course, but also for you. The fact is there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. It’s just about what she needs at any particular time. When ... read more
- PERFECTION asks: Shirelle, a friend told me. “You shouldn’t make someone be your world.” I don’t quite get this thought, and I’ve tried for years already. Can you explain this to me? How bad is it to make someone your world? Is that bad even?Hi PERFECTION – Well I’m going to sound like a hypocrite here, because what I say is going to be very different from the way that I live. You see, as you know, I’m a dog. And we are genetically programmed to be extremely devoted to one person ... read more
- LittleGirlBigAppetite asks: It’s close to one whole year since I broke up with my boyfriend. After the breakup, I did everything possible to move on. Blocked him on social media, hung out with my friends a lot, concentrated on my studies and also did the things that you’d told me to do in your previous letter. It all went well for 5 months and I even forgave him for ruining our relationship, though my feelings for him were still there. So therefore I unblocked him. But he texted me back in April and we agreed to be friends. Slowly as days went by my feelings and hopes of getting back together got stronger. He too confessed that he still has feelings for me, though I find it hard to believe. As he stays in a city 2 hours away from me, I knew that meeting up wasn’t possible anytime soon due to our busy schedules (one of the reasons why we broke up). Plus I always have this nagging feeling that he might be seeing other girls. So to save myself from all the pain all over again, I told him that we should stop talking in August. Its October now, and I am still hurting. I can’t seem to stop thinking about him no matter what. There’s always this empty, hollow feeling inside me and I’m worried that I might go into depression. It has already started affecting my sleep. Is there anything I can do apart from the regular ‘how to move on from your ex activities’ that might help?Hi LittleGirlBigAppetite – I sure hope this guy appreciates how much you feel for him! Even if nothing ever happens between you two again, it’s pretty amazing to have someone care that much. I’m very complimented that you took my previous letter so strongly. And I’m glad you ... read more
- PERFECTION asks: I’m continuing to make moves for the girl I’ve always wanted to be with me, and so far everything seems to fall right in. But we don’t have classes anymore and I have a job already, so what worries me is that I won’t be able to see her frequently. I’m finding ways to maintain communication with her, but I’m also afraid that she might get annoyed. What do you think I should do? I get this feeling like I want to call her but I’m afraid she might get mad. Though all the things that I have done seem to have a positive feedback lately. She’s sweet in person, but in text messages or chat most of the time she’s not. Should I worry? Is that a bad sign?Hi PERFECTION – Well, I have good news and bad news. The good news is that you’ve been doing everything right, and are in exactly the place you’ve been wanting to be. The bad news is that now there are so many unknowns. It’s like when you’re looking for ... read more
- Bernice asks: I have a boyfriend, but suddenly felt in love with another person who also has a girlfriend. We both felt in love and had an affair. Now I’m confused if the new guy loves me, because he treats me good and he claims he loves me, but we are both dating. What should I do?Hi Bernice – What a situation! Wow! Well of course I can’t answer your fundamental question – how he feels about you. But I can comment on the situation you’re in. It’s a very tough one. For two main reasons. First, of course, it’s hard for either ... read more
- G asks: I’ve been in a relationship for the past year or so. I do love the guy I’m dating but recently I have been overthinking a lot and thinking about taking a break. I get contradictory thoughts: one which says that I love him and another which says that it’s fading away. I don’t know what to do.Hi G – The big question here is what exactly you mean by “break.” For example, I sleep on Handsome’s bed, but every once in a while, I feel like sleeping on the floor for a few hours. Then in the middle of the night I’ll jump back ... read more
- Tyna asks: Could you talk to me about self-esteem? You talked about dressing well, etc…. Unfortunately, I don’t even feel like I love myself that much. (I tried to harm myself). I always feel like nothing I wear will look good anyway, as I am not that slim. People seem to prefer slim People, which am not. When I am moving around with my friends, it’s them people will notice, and my head goes back to, “Maybe you are ugly or maybe you look fatter than all of them, and therefore are unattractive.” I don’t know what to do Shirelle.Hi Tyna – My biggest wish for you is that you realize how normal your feelings are. MOST people feel inferior a lot, and almost ALL people have trouble about their appearance. Of course, there are degrees of these things, and if your anxiety is truly overwhelming you, I very much recommend you ... read more
- Tannu asks: My boyfriend has kept me in blindness. He used to tell me that he is very rich. And he has taken my savings from me and said he will return it to me in two three days. But he has not returned it. I loved him so much. I have done whatever he told me to do, but he has lied to me for three years (taking my money, saying his father was ill). When I came to know about the truth he apologized to me and begged me to leave with him. I am in confusion what to do. But on the other side he used to curse me and put finger on my character. He used to tell me that I would leave him for money and didn’t accept his apology because I started liking someone else. Now I don’t want to stay with him, but he’s forcing me to, to get my money back. I don’t know what to do in this situation.Hi Tannu – I have to admit, just from your letter, I’m not liking this fellow very much. He sounds like a total, awful jerk. Not just kind of a jerk. So this is a horrible situation. And there’s no good easy way out of it. ... read more
- Well They Began It! …the hope and despair of intolerance…I don’t pay much attention to politics. Most of it is far too confusing for me. How is a dog, who can’t master basic arithmetic, supposed to figure the costs and benefits of different tax plans? What’s the best policy on drug legalization? How much is the right amount to ... read more
- The little one asks: I have a boyfriend whom I fought with some days ago. We love each other but we fight a lot. Then I got a message from my ex-boyfriend whom I left for my current boyfriend. And when I talked with my ex, I kind of felt very happy. I really want to go meet him. But I don’t know whether this is correct or not. Please suggest.Hi The little one – I really can’t say what you need to do, because I don’t know enough about your relationship, or your current boyfriend. In some relationships, no one would mind at all if the other met up with their ex – especially if it ... read more
- Lila asks: It’s been only two and a half months and he’s asking me to move in with him. We spent the whole summer together, but people are saying it won’t last, that we will be sick of each other. How can I make that not happen?Hi Lila – I’m not sure what you’re asking. Do you want moving in together to not happen, or getting sick of each other to not happen, after you move in together? If it’s the first one, you just have to say no, that you love him and ... read more
- Sazuna6 asks: Recently I’ve been struggling a lot. Without getting into specifics, college applications didn’t work out, a relationship that I was super invested in didn’t work out, (the fact that I am still in love with that person isn’t helping), a lot has been going on in the family, and I’m also clinically depressed so I feel like I’m in this downward spiral. I know most of the sadness or hopelessness comes from the depression itself, but if we were to take that out of the equation for a while, how do you think I can get myself back up? I don’t want to be drowning in self-pity right now. College is starting, I want to be able to have a positive outlook, but everything that’s happened just tore my self-esteem to shreds and I’m not sure how I can put the pieces back together. Any word of advice would be super duper helpfulHi Sazuna6 – I don’t know a lot about what you’re asking in particular – for example, you say that college applications didn’t go well, but then you say that “College is starting” – but I sure do know about self-esteem, and it makes sense that you’re going through ... read more