Ask Shirelle

  • Is it possible to trust someone completely?
    PERFECTION asks: When you fully trust someone does that mean you don’t get jealous anymore? What does it mean to really fully trust someone? Hi PERFECTION –             That’s a really great question.  I think there are two answers – and both are… yes.             Here’s what I’m thinking.  I ... read more
    Published on 2021-02-23
  • The Aquarian Apocalypse …a fable for our times…
                Certain kinds of stories transcend place and time.  For example, did you know that almost every land on Earth has some version of Cinderella, long before they’d have heard them from each other?              One that seems to show up in every culture that existed around the ancient Mediterranean ... read more
    Published on 2021-02-17
  • How to choose where to live when you each want different things
    Miss Pawco asks: I wish to seek some relationship advice from you and to gain a third person perspective apart from his or mine or any biased friend. I am a career oriented woman working in a metropolitan city and very much in love with city life. My boyfriend is currently ... read more
    Published on 2021-02-15
  • Should one share a gift with others?
    Maya asks: Hey Shirelle Are relationship gifts meant to be shared? For instance say I am in a relationship.  My boyfriend buys me something for our Anniversary, then I permit my sister wear it, or maybe she takes it without asking me, and I am like, very okay with sharing it. Tell ... read more
    Published on 2021-02-08
  • Should you worry if your different-sex partner kisses someone of their sex?
    Outcast asks:Lately my girlfriend told me she kissed her female friend. Her reason was that her friend was nice and she was curious to see how it felt kissing another girl.  It’s been two weeks since she told me . But I think I lost that trust towards her, though ... read more
    Published on 2021-02-01
  • My Friend Mutt – the need to use your full mind
    My dear friends, I usually write you from a place of tail-wagging joy.  Though sometimes I have written you from sadness, or from anger.  But today I’m maybe the saddest and angriest I’ve ever been. One of my very best friends ever passed away a couple of weeks ago.  I ... read more
    Published on 2021-01-21
  • What to do when you’re irrationally afraid of your partner’s ex
    Awerpia asks: I’m so confused Shirelle. I can’t seem to get my girlfriend’s ex out of my mind. The thought of him seems to haunt me and I wish I never knew of his existence. I know we have spoken at length about this issue but I don’t know how ... read more
    Published on 2021-01-16
  • Why hasn’t the guy who flirted with me gotten back to me since?
    Soumyaguna Asks: I’m working as an HR. And 2 days back I was asked to call a guy, Y, to offer him a designation. We clicked in the first go like magic. I don’t know how this happened, but we became comfortable around each other on the call, and talked ... read more
    Published on 2021-01-05
  • Is it all right to still love an ex when you’ve moved on?
    Lady Esther asks: I just got out of a relationship filled with intimacy because I felt I found someone who’ll make me happier. Two weeks after the break up, I started dating this new person and got intimate with him. But I feel I’m still in love with the old ... read more
    Published on 2020-12-28
  • Why would my boyfriend push me away when his life is difficult?
    JuicyBest asks: My boyfriend has been having issues recently with his career, and his family angered him real bad.  I called to calm him down, but he answered me in a way I didn’t like.  I messaged him and said I pray he looks back one day and realizes he ... read more
    Published on 2020-12-21
  • Do Dogs Celebrate Holidays? – the importance of happiness
    Every year around this time, I get asked if I celebrate Christmas, or Hanukkah, or Kwanzaa, or Eid, or Diwali, or… and I always have the same answer:  I. Am. A. Dog.  I love watching you guys get excited about holidays, and I love any special food that celebrations might ... read more
    Published on 2020-12-18
  • Should one keep trying to get someone who’s married?
    Laura asks: I am in a relationship with a married man. He is very caring and we found a true love between us. He confirmed that he will divorce his wife and come to me and marry me. He in fact tried that several times, but his wife is not ... read more
    Published on 2020-12-15
  • Is it wrong to cut off contact with an ex who’s reaching out?
    AayuTheLegend asks: I’m contacting you today to tell you that recently my ex, who publicly insulted me and dumped for the dumbest reasons ever, has tried messaging me, calling me, DMing me on Instagram.  I ignored it until I was fed up because it had been a week of getting ... read more
    Published on 2020-12-07
  • What to do about a girl who’s hitting on your boyfriend
    Blessing Special asks: There’s this girl that has been disturbing my boyfriend. He told me all about her. She even ruined our dinner one time with her call, for which my boyfriend was mad at her.  He pleaded with me and we were cool, but I told him am not ... read more
    Published on 2020-12-06
  • What to do when someone breaks up with you but wants to keep talking as friends
    Aditya23 asks:  I’m a 17 year old boy with an 18 year old girlfriend. We’ve been dating three years now and our love has transformed from a childhood to a serious post teenage love. I really love her and want her in my life. She’s a bit childish and I ... read more
    Published on 2020-11-23